I’ll be the first to tell you I’m not good at communicating with my wife. Actually, she may be the first to tell you, but I’ll affirm that every time. I can’t tell you how to solve that completely, but I can share with you one step that will drastically impact it. You need a monthly board meeting for your marriage.
Imagine working on a management team that never met together. Your team simply relied on peer to peer conversations throughout the week. Maybe you do work on that team, I’m sorry. It doesn’t work. We understand this. That’s why we organize consistent meetings to discuss consistent agenda items that we understand must be communicated to everyone. We understand it at work, but we ignore it at home. It’s time for that to change, and it’s so simple.
- Pick a day of the month.
My wife and I meet on the first Monday of the month. Choose whatever day works for you and your wife. Make it enjoyable. Order dinner. Have a glass of wine, and get started on your agenda.
- Review the next six weeks in your calendar.
Go over every event. Don’t miss anything. Discuss any potential additions. Don’t simply review the current month, or the first week of next month will be loaded with surprise events you didn’t get to talk about. Make sure both of your calendars are in sync.
- Schedule your date nights with plans.
Don’t wait to plan your date night an hour before you go out. Schedule it at your board meeting. What would you like to do this month? Make reservations. Understand how many babysitters you need and put everything in the calendar.
- Review your financial standing.
Where are you in terms of debt? Don’t guess. Look up exact numbers of savings, investments, and debt. No organization would guess on their financials. Don’t guess on yours.
- Develop your cash flow plan.
If you don’t know what a cash flow plan is, you need to take Financial Peace University. We offer it twice a year at Hoboken Grace. It’s essential. This isn’t your typical budget. This is a plan for how you will spend your money that month. Not every month is the same, your plan shouldn’t be the same month-to-month. Talk through your plan in light of your calendar and commitments. Put it on paper and stick to it.
- Review your household responsibilities.
Who is responsible for what around the house? Does that need to change or be adjusted this month? Bringing clarity to responsibility eliminates confusion and creates opportunity for care.
- Review your parenting plan.
Coming next week.